We all have lists. Shopping lists, to-do lists, etc. Mine was what I wanted in a partner: his body type, height, complexion, occupation, salary and his race and ethnicity. I held on to this list tightly, but to no avail he did not appear. That was until the moment he sat across from me on the E Train. It was him: my vision incarnate.
With butterflies in my stomach, I took the chance and went to coffee with him and after that we were inseparable. My family loved him. We started discussing a wedding date.
I thought of all the countless possibilities, the bouquet, the cake, and the dress. My dream was becoming a reality. That is, if my dream included him having a wife and child already…
Yes. After investing a year of my life into him and to the relationship, I found out it was all a lie!
I was devastated. I could hardly breathe, hardly think. I was going insane. I had so many questions. Am I not worthy of a great love? Where did I go wrong?
I sought the wisdom of the sages in order to figure it all out. I still had my list and I was told to rip it up. I was told not to follow “lists” and to just focus on the love that I wanted and be prepared to settle down with the person who could offer that love.
And that’s what I did. I threw away the list and meditated on the kind of love I wanted. Six months later I met a person who could give me that love (thankfully he came in a handsome package). He had been searching for me all along and now we are happily married with an adorable little boy.
Loveessence is a romantic networking site for black women who are ready for love, and all men who are ready to love them in return. Here at Loveessence we do not match according to race, color, occupation, height, weight, and build requirements. We encourage you to be open-minded and match based on values and personal philosophies surrounding the kind of love that you want.
We ask you to answer that fundamental question: “What type of love do you want?”
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